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IDEAL PARENT FIGURE ATTACHMENT REPAIR
Experience relief and move towards secure attachment
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How likely our first cohort was to recommend this to a friend
Deep dive with 1-1 guidance and video calls
The Story
When we get all of our needs met as a child, we grow up with secure attachment – we move through the world with wonder, confidence, self-love, presence, and ease. Many of us didn't, and we carry the wounds of this – like insecurity, fear, and self-criticism.
Ideal Parent Figure is a protocol developed by Dan Brown to help people move into secure attachment and experience the relief of feeling unconditional love, support, nourishment, and guidance. It's incredibly potent – a pilot study found that after four 16-minute visualizations over a month, people with complex PTSD experienced a significant reduction in symptoms.1
I've facilitated IPF sessions for the last year, and I've been so inspired seeing what IPF has given to my clients. I've seen people experience states of okayness they've never felt before, when other modalities aren't hitting. I've seen people move from ever-present distrust into joy and openness, and embody the full essence of their being in a way that radiates out. In our first IPF healing journey cohort, all 11 people reported less avoidant attachment after 6 weeks, and 9 out of 11 reported less anxious attachment.
IPF feels so under-appreciated – relative to its potency, there aren't a lot of ways to receive IPF facilitation. I so deeply want more people to experience the power of the Ideal Parent Figure protocol.
“I feel I grew towards more secure attachment. I learned how good it feels to not hold everything on my own, that I always have ideal parents I can imagine to help support me in the most tumultuous of moments. I gained a greater capacity to be with my moment to moment experience, and a deeper ability to ground into faith and acceptance — faith that the universe is guiding me to precisely the experience I need to have for my greatest unfolding in each moment.”
The course
An experience of attachment needs
We're going to go on a month-long journey together to go deep on the Ideal Parent Figure protocol through:
Four 2-hour group calls. The calls will focus on each of the six attachment needs (safety, security, regulation, attunement, delight, and exploration), and include meditations and embodied exercises. The calls will be on Thursdays at 11:30am PST (2:30pm EST, 7:30pm GMT), on:
May 8
May 15
May 22
May 29
Three 1-1 facilitated calls. Between each group call, we'll work with your specific attachment conditioning in 50 minute 1-1 calls.
Guided meditations. You'll get access to guided meditations to practice alongside for each of the attachment needs.
The emphasis will be on experience – we'll lay some theoretical groundwork, but will spend the majority of the time giving you an experiential sense of what getting your attachment needs met feels like.
The course is capped at 10 people so that everyone can receive 1-1 calls and the space to share their experience.
My approach to IPF
This course offers a particular flavour of Ideal Parent Figure.Dan Brown's full attachment repair approach includes three pillars – mentalizing (or meta-awareness, often developed through meditation), collaboration (having a collaborative relationship with your facilitator), and the Ideal Parent Figure protocol. This course is just focused on the IPF protocol, not the full three pillar approach.
I've also gained a huge amount from energy healing and the Reichian character structures, and weave them into the IPF practices. If you are looking to learn more directly about the three pillar approach and IPF in its purest form, you can check out Mettagroup's courses.
The curriculum
01 Foundation
What is attachment theory, and what are the different attachment styles?
Developing an initial relationship with your ideal mother and father
02 Safety
Establishing a sense of safety and trust with your ideal parents
03 Attunement
What is attunement, and what can deep attunement feel like?
04 Regulation
What would it feel like to receive exactly the comfort and support you need to be regulated, in every moment?
05 Delight
What if you were loved and appreciated just as you are, without needing to do anything?
What does it feel like to be delighted in, just for existing?
06 Exploration
Receiving support to move out into the world with guidance, trust, love, and excitement for your dreams
Doing the exploration protocols – including natural innocence protocol (to touch the easeful, innocent state you were in before any of your conditioning happened), and best self protocol (to establish a sense of your best self)
After some of Amanda’s guided meditations, I had this grounding realisation of the different needs of the child and a vivid sense of how they're meant to feel. Moments of delight, soothing, and safety now tangible. And with practice, I knew I could access them anytime :)
- Miz